The Data We Don't Talk About
Multiple Indian studies confirm what mothers of autistic children already know: parenting an autistic child in India is associated with significantly elevated rates of depression, anxiety, and burnout — particularly for mothers, who bear disproportionate caregiving responsibility.
A 2021 study in the Indian Journal of Psychiatry found that 62% of mothers of autistic children met clinical criteria for depression. Less than 10% had sought mental health support. The gap between need and help-seeking is caused by stigma, guilt ("I should be strong for my child"), lack of time, financial constraints, and the cultural narrative that mothers sacrifice everything.
The Oxygen Mask Principle
You cannot pour from an empty vessel. A mother in mental health crisis cannot provide the consistent, regulated, empathetic caregiving that her autistic child needs. Getting help for yourself is not selfish — it is a necessary part of caring for your child.
Signs Your Mental Health Needs Attention
Crying most days without clear reason. Feeling like you are going through the motions of parenting without feeling love or connection. Thoughts that you and your child would be better off if something happened to you. Inability to enjoy anything. Persistent physical complaints with no medical cause (headache, stomach pain, fatigue). Not caring about your own hygiene or appearance.
Where to Get Help in India — Affordably
iCall (TISS Mumbai): Professional counselling at ₹100–300/session. Available pan-India via video. 9152987821.
Vandrevala Foundation Helpline: 1860-2662-345. 24/7, free.
iVolunteer: Connects with volunteer counsellors.
Peer support: Autism parent WhatsApp groups. Sometimes being heard by someone who truly understands is the most therapeutic intervention.